Making a choice

Please excuse my absence, this week has been exciting and frustrating and I wrote several posts but found that what I had to say just wasn't quite right, so I'm going to make up for it, promise.  

We make choices every moment of everyday, left or right, porridge or toast but how many times do you check that it was the right choice?  Obviously it's not really my concern what you have for breakfast or how you got to our meeting but when you arrive you've got to know that you are giving me a bench mark.  An idea of who you are and how much you care about our meeting.  The same goes when you are dressing for an interview or date.  Before you open your mouth you are giving the other person big clues as to who you are and to a certain extent what you think about them.  The choices we make, occasionally, subconsciously can make more of an impression, so without trying to put you in a situation where your head is getting ready to explode, you need to consider your choices and the messages you are sending.

For example, although dark lipstick is still on trend it wouldn't be appropriate for a first meeting as it is distracting, more specifically a way of drawing attention away from what you are saying and into the realms of physicality (that really is the most delicate way I can say that).  However, for a first date something I seem to be doing a bit more of these days, again heavy make up sends out the wrong message - because you are essentially wearing a mask, already placing another barrier that you'll have to move through.  By keeping things simple, using make-up as an accent rather than a mask, you are intimating that you have the confidence to stand in your own skin and know how to make the best of yourself.  You care enough to make an effort but are not desperately seeking external approval.  

For you boys my advice is simple, the devil is in the details.  People will notice if you have only ironed the colour and cuffs of your shirt.  You have to think about what your skin looks like it may not be historically manly but your skin should be moisturised as its basic maintenance and again is something that causes an unnecessary distraction, if not done.