Chasing the dream

Supposedly we are all chasing  a dream, be it the perfect job, perfect family or a combination of the two.  The idea that if you buy enough or do enough you will achieve this Utopian existence on Earth and happiness will be an everyday expectation.  I don't know about you but part of my Utopian life would be the ability to wear white  for more than 20 minutes, without spilling something irremovable on it. (stylish I may be, clumsy I am)  The point that I seem to have veered away from is; who is choosing our ideal of Utopia?  Did you sit down and decide what you are aiming for, or did someone tell you what you should want?  You probably have a vague notion that you want to be successful and happy, that you want your family to be healthy and wise, but have you considered on a personal level how to make that happen?


The reality is a goal is the secret to achieving anything, you can't take the first step until you at least have a vague idea of which direction you want to head in.  For example, looking better is a start but it actually needs refining into an actual goal, the spectrum is too wide to be achievable all at once and so you will invariably give up before you reach the end game.  Manageable bites is the key, if you want to add colour do it one piece at a time - then you can gauge the reaction and see if it works for you.  Take my Mum for example, a month ago I reorganised her wardrobe, we didn't go shopping, I just gave her an opportunity to really look at the pieces she already had.  The compliments, just keep coming and I can hear the pride in her voice, by wearing her clothes in a different way and getting dressed from a more simple system she is able to achieve the results she wanted.  It's true we are completely biased towards each other, she thinks I'm a genius, I think she is the root of all the good things in my life but that doesn't detract from the fact she feels amazing and the confidence shines from her and I'm proud that I could help her in that way.  We took a baby step and the results have had significant ripple effects.


So if you get a chance spend a bit of time today thinking about what you want, as that really is the first step to getting it.