A little of what you fancy does you good.

Years ago I read an article, I'm not going to quote it as I'm afraid it is a bit of a distant memory but the basic premise was that, true wants were based on an unfulfilled need within your body or psyche and by allowing yourself the things that you wanted you would be able to distinguish between true wants and a passing fantasy based desire.  The interesting thing was that this article was not just about food and emotional partners but also took clothing as an example.  The idea being that if you want something it is because some part of yourself actually has a need for it.

I love this idea as I am naturally on the self indulgent side (I know, I hide it well!)  I also know that nobody needs more excuses or reasons to spend the money they may not have at the moment.  January is traditionally the hangover month, you had a good time in December and now you have to pay the price, or credit card bill to be specific.  So maybe now is a good time to exercise the self control but use the time to take a step back and look at the things you are naturally attracted to without the pressure of thinking about buying them?  Instead of thinking I like that but I would never wear it and dismissing the whole concept, try to work out why you like it, is it the colour or shape or a particular fabric and file it away for when you are back on the spending train.  I find that most people tend to be more dismissive than they are accepting, finding reasons not to want things, which I understand but if you are constantly drawn to the same type of item there may be a very real reason for it.

I was speaking to my best friend last night and we were discussing her obsessive hunt for a particular item of clothing, namely a pair of grey silk sequinned shorts.  My initial comment was that, nothing good starts with the words, "There was a pair of sequinned shorts..." but I was wrong because they are cute and fun.  So even if it is just that my friend needs a little more fun in her life, they would have served a purpose.  She was drawn to them for a reason, even though it is not something I think she would naturally wear, she had a need and in this case it could be filled by a garment.

The point I am so ineptly dancing around is that if you love something, there is a reason for it and maybe no isn't the first word you should think of.