Stop pretending

I hate to sound like a bad Chesney Hawkes impression but, You are what you are and you don't need to change or deny that.  I've been out and about today and this has come up, so many times, I've almost lost count.  Oh I'd be fine if...., if I could just..., when I was...I would have - please input your own excuses.  It just doesn't work on any level from the deepest to the most shallow, by pretending or hoping to be something you are not you miss the opportunity of who you are and what you could be.  Ok, rant over, please relax and read on.

Have you ever thought I could wear that if, I was lighter, younger, blonder?  The truth is, that in the time you want to wear that specific item you will probably be none of those things but if you love that item, I promise you with the right styling it will work for you and make you feel amazing.  (Unless it's Herve Ledger, then there is little I can do, it is what it is.)  You should not have to restrict yourself and if you allowed yourself to thoroughly understand the shape you are, I bet you would stop wishing you were something different.  Trying to adopt a style is exhausting, if it isn't naturally comfortable for you, adapting a style to your comfort is the easiest thing in the world.

So after reading this if you do nothing else, take a small step to just accepting what you see in the mirror, dressing reality is always easier than finding clothes for the mythical creature you hope to be and then constantly being disappointed.  You'll look and feel much better.